The hardest truths of life?

  1. Looks matter.
  2. Money doesn't buy happiness. It buys crazy ass happiness. - Eminem
  3. People don't care about your hard work. They just care about the end result.
  4. Poor people have less friends but genuine one's. Rich people have more friends, mostly fake.
  5. Never trust people who ignored you when you were struggling, but texted/called the moment you succeed.
  6. Only few of your so called friends want to see you succeed. Rest of them are there just to see you fall.
  7. Grades have got nothing to do with success.
  8. The person who criticizes you or tells you your faults privately, in person, is the one who actually wants you to improvise and succeed.
  9. Uninstalling social media apps won't help you get somewhere. Mind control and determination will.
  10. Drinking or smoking doesn't help to reduce your stress or to forget about some stuff. It makes the matter worse.
  11. Your social media achievements won't matter when you are on your deathbed.
  12. Getting a single upvote on Quora feels much better than hundreds of likes on Facebook and Instagram.

Citizenship Regulation - CAA - Exact Brief Explanation



Logic of the CAB and CAA - While partition, when India and Pakistan were formed on the basis of RELIGION.




So muslims are the majority there and they are living happily there.

Same with Bangladesh and Afghan muslim majority countries.

So now if there are few percent of minority people who are non-muslim, and if they, for whatsoever reason, want to return to India, we must welcome as majority of India is following the Hindu culture. It is ethical and our moral responsibility.

All these bullshits of protests are because they are not imagining the fact that in CAB if legally we say that anyone can get citizenship of India, then there will be no rule for anyone to enter in India(especially Pakistan).

Are we okay with that ? They do not want to consider this as the worst possibility, if it happens these dumb people will be the ones who will cry about terrorism, and other population problems !

All these problems of unemployment, economy slowdown,water/electricity/food/land and other resources are because of mere ignorance to the huge population explosion we are facing.




Yes these are issues, but just imagine, if we would have been strongest and stubborn on illegal immigration from Pak/Bangladesh and related borders, would that have been lessened the population we are seeing today ? Couldn’t we have controlled the things at least somewhat better manner ?

People spreading hate speeches, I want to tell them that applying patches on the issues is not something Modi government is doing, but eliminating the root cause is their focus so that other problems will be vanished automatically.

Yes, I am Modi govt supporter, and pls do not divert the topic now just because 

I support and my opinions are just to be ignored.

In day before yesterday’s news 10+ illegal Bangladeshis have been caught doing illegal sand mafia works in Maharashtra.

These millions and billions illegal people are utilizing resources of India and creating crowd for we people, even for you boy !

What is their so sympathy to let Rohingyas enter openly in India ? 

Where would the feeding, land, resources, be arranged and managed ?

And for your info - Mr Manmohan Singh in 2005 has himself said that illegal immigrants is becoming a severe problem if ignored, but Hon Madam Ji never let him do anything about it as she wanted more and more muslims to enter to appease existing Indian mulsims.

After 2014, I did not see any bomb blast by Pakistan(Balakot exception which we responded harshly and hardly)

NRC is other aspect of this or can say a complimentary step to keep a register to keep record of who all are living in the country and what is their history like when did they enter and how did they applied for citizenship of this country, etc.

In a small office also, we do check who is entering the office and requires mandatory and compulsory authentications to pass the gate. Then why there is so casual approach when it comes for country ? 

So everything else is unimportant until we fix the main problem.

Deadlock





Screen time & sleep

Screen time, has for long, been associated with lack of sleep and sleep, as we all know it, is extremely important for good health. Any kind of screen time certainly hampers sleep as it results in cognitive stimulation, which is the opposite of what you want before bedtime. “When you are using your phone or laptop, or watching TV, the screen emits light which gives the brain the impression that it is not bed time yet. This affects the production of a hormone called melatonin, which contributes to insomnia, sleep deprivation or poor quality of sleep,” says Bhakti Thakkar Bauva, clinical psychologist.



Researchers of Salk Institute for Biological Studies have pinpointed how certain cells in the eye process ambient light and reset our internal clocks or circadian rhythm. When these cells are exposed to artificial light late into the night, our internal clocks get confused, resulting in a host of health issues.

While we use our phones, we tend to send emails, text, pay bills or see the news. Most of these activities can cause stress which increases the release of the stress hormone, ‘cortisol’, in the brain. Therefore, the brain’s electrical activity increases, refusing to calm down. Hence, it is essential that we avoid using a screen for at least an hour or two before bedtime.


SLEEPING NEXT TO YOUR PHONE?

Even if you’re already asleep and your phone is on silent, if your phone beeps, it will emit light, which is perfectly capable of piercing through your sleeping eyes and waking you up. First things first, automatically set your phone’s blue light filter to come on at a certain time every day – like 7 pm or 8 pm. Keep your phone away from where you can reach it from your bed – on a night stand, bedside table, or even outside your bedroom.

What is the most important thing in life?



Though this question inspires as many answers as people asked, everyone ultimately wishes to achieve the same thing



My sister met a friend at the airport and they got talking. They had met after some years and while catching up, he mentioned, “You know Sumita, I have started focusing more and more on myself as I grow older. Earlier, I used to think that it is a selfish thing to do, but now I know that it is only by focusing on my own self that I can focus on the important things of life – my family, my work, and all the things I hold dear.”



So true; he had hit upon an important eternal truth. So often we make the mistake of giving importance to everything else in life at the cost of our own selves. We go off on a tangent chasing a passion or a need, forgetting that life calls for balance. We think there is plenty of time for that later, but that time never comes for those who put it off. It is a matter of attitude and of prioritising.



The simple truth is that everything we seek and chase is a means to the same end – happiness and a fulfilled life, a need to pacify all turmoil and not be a victim of dissatisfaction and angst. Ultimately, the only thing we all seek is – a deep satisfaction of the inner self and the knowledge that we have led a fulfilled, balanced life, having made the most of this beautiful gift of life given to us.



And how can one achieve that satisfaction? To answer that question, my sister brought up an interesting perspective, “Why are we alive? The difference between life and death is that we have a body, and hence, relationships and worldly needs. This cannot be ignored. So to my mind, leading a balanced life between our worldly limitations and spiritual aspirations is the most important thing. Just as we are born miniature versions and then grow and develop, that should be the aim of our lives too – to grow and learn.”



There will always be a conflict between the worldly and the spiritual while we are alive. So the only way of understanding the purpose for which we have been given life is to do a deep delve into life itself and understand its meaning. And that cannot happen either through overindulgence, nor through renunciation. You have to embrace life in its entirety, to live life fully in all its aspects, but with responsibility and ensuring a good balance, always.

So, be it in our personal or professional lives, we should aim to live a fulfilling, enriched existence. Connecting with others is as important as connecting with one’s own self because we learn about life through our relationships with others. At regular intervals, it is important to keep reinventing oneself, giving up things and even people who are holding us back from growing and achieving the purpose of life.



Happiness, compassion, love and peace are all part of life and must be shared and not hoarded, for that will interfere with the flow of life. To be happy, we have to know that we are part of the life force. A life devoid of balance would throw us off on a tangent, and we would go swinging away from the wheel of life. In order to help others achieve happiness and fulfillment, we have to learn how to achieve it ourselves first. Do whatever gives you happiness and satisfaction, but do it with a sense of responsibility – that is the crux of a happy life. Do you agree?


Why have we become so comfortable sharing our private life online?




Social media hasn’t blurred the line between personal and private life – it’s gone. People want it that way. It’s been a little more than a decade since social media came into our lives, and a lot — make that almost everything — has changed since then. Most of all, how we see ourselves.



Today, the biggest celebrity engagements, divorces and baby bumps, are announced on social media. Going “Instagram official” is the new way to declare relationship statuses. Celebrities the world over are confessional, open and honest on this medium. A lot of them are announcing their sexual identity on social media – something that was unthinkable even a few years ago.

THAT ‘RELATIONSHIP STATUS’



It possibly all began with Facebook’s nifty idea of “relationship status” that became popular in the mid Noughties, and has since become iconic as an idea. What was once private, or known to close friends and/or family, is now shared with people we’ve added on social media – relationship status, announcement of engagement, birth of a child, even break-up, separation and divorce. American figure skater Sasha Cohen announced her engagement to her partner in an Instagram post. She showed off her ring in a selfie, along with her partner. James Middleton, brother of Duchess Kate and Pippa Middleton, confirmed his engagement to his girlfriend, Alizee Theveneton, on social media. Earlier, Australian model Miranda Kerr had announced her engagement to Snapchat CEO Evan Spiegel on Instagram too. Actor Dia Mirza recently announced her split, and actor Amy Jackson announced her pregnancy the same way.


PRIVATE TO PUBLIC



Raksha Bharadia, author of Chaos: In Romance, Sexuality and Fidelity, believes that the line between private and public has disappeared, “The dynamics of relationships have changed in the world of social media. We are relating to each other and our followers intimately.” It’s no different for people off the glamour stratosphere. Digital expert Chetan Deshpande feels this transition has happened because as human beings our biggest need is to be understood, or better still, not to be misunderstood.

THE FUTURE IS TRANSPARENT



“What’s a more authentic way to talk about private lives than speak to millions yourself?” asks Deshpande, adding, “When celebs confess their private lives on social media, they want to connect more authentically to a wide group of people. They are being open about their personal lives and making them public. For everyone, online interactions are much more convenient and affordable. Talking online just feels natural, efficient and safe to us.”

In 2017, 81 per cent of Americans had a social media profile, and the number of users worldwide is expected to reach 2.5 billion this year! That’s a lot of people sharing private lives online.

THE REASON

Deshpande says another major reason why we are all comfortable sharing our private lives is that people have become lonely in real life. He says, “Most of us feel closer to our virtual friends as they keep sharing personal information too. It makes us all feel appreciated,” he says.



A research by Lu Yang and Bernard CY Tan on selfdisclosure on social media, said people disclose their lives online to “increase general liking and social acceptance”, the default goal for almost all individuals. Another reason is self-clarification – the disclosure of more intimate and private personal information. It may be an engagement, a childbirth, a career move or announcing one’s sexual identity. Self-clarification gives people a chance to control perceptions.

Psychologists Keith Wilcox, Andrew T Stephen wrote — in their study, Are Close Friends the Enemy? Online Social Networks, Self-Esteem, and Self-Control, for a Columbia Business School research paper — that social media can immensely boost self-esteem as human beings tend to present a socially desirable, positive self-view to others when they are online. This gives us all an increase in self-esteem. Natalie Bazarova, an associate professor of communications at Cornell University, believes sharing online yields more intense intimacy than faceto-face interactions. But there’s a caveat. This narcissistic need to be seen in a positive light also tends to diminish our self-control. In what way?

THE CAVEAT



Says psychologist Rachna K Singh, “People are more anxious these days when they meet people face-to-face because they are always trying to match their online persona with their real selves. It’s a difficult task. One is curated, one is as it is. That’s one of the major reasons you see people fail these days in real life interactions and relationships.”

ARE WE READY?

Adds Singh, “Everyone’s relationship goals have changed in the new landscape of social media. Pregnant women aren’t shy or fear an evil eye showing off their bumps. Everyone wants to be super relatable.” Hockey writer Adam Gretz, 34, wrote about his battle with depression on Tumblr and Twitter before he told any of his friends.



In fact, until that moment, only his wife knew what he was going through.

Life coach Peyush Bhatia explains why people have started feeling closer to strangers more than near ones. “We are witnessing families shrinking; there are very few people you can share your pain and joy with these days. Sharing online with strangers is easier. With our busy lives, shouting from public platforms sort of ensures, you control your own narrative. This creates a new kind of intimacy in the virtual world. All that is good but what we have to ask ourselves is: whether perceptions can be controlled as much as we want, and are we really prepared to deal with the consequences if posting about our private lives, backfires?”

THE CONUNDRUM

While we’ve all become comfortable sharing our private lives, there are some topics that draw the kind of attention you may not want. Here are a few things to remember...

Steer away from strong political attacks

If you want to display your vulnerabilities, it’s best to be prepared for all possible outcomes

It’s better not to share details of a vacation, personal location, pictures of credit cards, pictures you wouldn’t want your boss or parents to see

Think twice before posting your state of mind when angry

Relationship or personal drama is best kept private

Bragging and self-aggrandising statements tend to put people off

Stay away from badmouthing others

Assume that everything you post online can be seen by others, as even major social networks have suffered privacy breaches

Privacy and personal comfort are paramount: at no point should you feel compelled to respond to messages or queries from people you don’t know

Don’t give ‘likes’ or retweets too much value

If you wouldn’t say something in person to someone, avoid it on social media too


SLEEP DEFICIT



The recommended 7 to 9 hours of shuteye nightly does more than make you less grumpy


According to a 2018 study conducted by a consumer products giant, nearly 93 per cent of Indians are sleep deprived. The study also said that sleeping post 10 pm triggers a change in the sleeping pattern that leads to sleep deprivation. You could blame it on changing lifestyles, work schedules or obsession with gadgets.

WHAT IS SLEEP DEPRIVATION?

Also known as insufficient sleep or sleeplessness, it is the condition of not having enough sleep and may vary widely in severity. Some of the most important processes like repair, recovery, rejuvenation, detoxification, recycling, muscle growth, hormonal and sugar balance, growth in immunity occur during the deeper stages of sleep. A chronic sleep-restricted state can cause fatigue, daytime sleepiness, clumsiness and increased appetite leading to weight gain.



WHAT CAUSES IT?

There are various causes of sleep deprivation, which can be voluntary behaviour, personal obligations, working schedule or medical problems. A variety of environmental factors, such as extreme cold or hot temperatures, loud noise, and bright light, can disrupt sleep at night. Certain lifestyle factors, such as drinking coffee or smoking cigarettes prior to bedtime, can stimulate the nervous system and also delay the onset of sleep.

What are the symptoms?

- Excessive sleepiness
- Yawning
- Irritability
- Daytime fatigue




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